I use to wonder what exactly does the phrase “let go” really mean and just how does one do that.
Seems like anytime that I tried to control the outcome of a situation I would hold on tight, determined to get the results that I wanted. Moreover, when things did not turn out as I thought they should I would blame others. Then that was my reason to act out in my addictions. What I had to learn was that I am not responsible for the outcome; I am only responsible to do the next right thing in any given situation. The end-result belongs to God.
Imagine being on the outside of a window holding onto the sill. Someone tells you to let go because the window is going to shut on your fingers. Bam, bam, bam, but you still hold on; determined not to let go. What you failed to realize is that your feet are on the ground, so it is okay to let go because you will not fall. This was a hard lesson for me to learn, but it is possible because I am proof.
When we hold on to things we cannot control this causes us pain. We do not know where to turn and we become fierce trying to find the right solution. We start to act as if we are God; determined to control people, places, and things. We become so desperate for an answer that we began to use artificial encouragement like tobacco, drugs, and alcohol. When we are still unsuccessful at managing others, then we become out of control doing things that have serious consequences like jail, mental institutions, or death. The sad thing is, if we survive, and then we start the process all over again searching for results.
Once we decide to let go of the outcome we become useful and whole. We utilize that energy on ourselves; making an effort to let go of our demons. We start by doing so one day at a time. Eventually, transformation takes place in our lives; we will be amazed at how good we will feel about who we are. We will no longer have to identify ourselves with our old character defects like self-pity, and hopelessness. We will become new creatures in Christ. “So then, friends, we are children, not of the slave but…free. For freedom Christ has set us free. Stand firm, therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery” (Galatians 4:31-5:1, NRSV).
Let go and let God. “Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7,NRSV).
We do not have to do this alone. Instead, we can associate ourselves with like-minded people. Let go and hold on for a ride that is so worth living we will be surprised.